A few years ago, I introduced a morning routine, I had no idea how much it would change my life. So far, I've learned that rituals can have a causal impact on my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
I've never been good with routine but decided to give it a go after seeing the effects on my daughter's sleeping pattern. She was a very bad sleeper, waking up 4 to 5 times during the night, sometimes coming to our bed and sleeping with us. It all started at 3 weeks of age she wouldn’t sleep if it wasn’t on our lap (my husband had to buy new comfortable shoes and I a baby carrier to walk her around the house). There were us, walking up and down, not even daring to go into a darker room, as she would scream her lungs out. She’s always been very active, a night owl. We struggled a lot, tried so many different things, but we’re never consistent or, because we’re trying so hard, we never persisted for long in one thing. We learned the hard way how routine is important for a child, If you’re a parent, you know what I'm talking about. I did enjoy some cosy nights sleeping with my cheeky monster, but I wish I had better nights. We only managed to stick to a routine when she was about 4 years old, dinner, a bit of TV, brushing teeth, books in bed, and sleep. It took time, but she now sleeps well (finally 🙏 ).
Long story short, we paid the price for not being good with routine, and now I understand it. As I mentioned, I’ve never been a person that would have everyday habits or rituals, and to be honest, I still struggle to commit to some things. It took me years to find my morning routine, and it all started with yoga.
Yoga is a self-transformation journey, and after practicing for about 5 years, I felt the need for more. So I took some meditation classes that were eyes opening. I learned that clearing my mind was freeing up space to get to know who I really was. The eager search to find myself lead me to introduce journaling, becoming even more conscious. That was it, I was ready to dive deep and incorporate a morning routine. It was a slow and gradual process, from 10 minutes a day up to 30 minutes when I have the chance. I mean, It’s not perfect it has its ups and downs as you’d expect from any human.
This self-inquiry practice gives me support and clarity I feel a huge impact on my day when I skip it. Nothing goes to plan, I get stressed and angry, my day does not flow. Mornings are difficult for many people, but handling them effectively can be crucial to getting your day right. I do my best to keep it going, and you should do the same. I understand how difficult can be to stick to a routine bear in mind that it gets better with time.
If you're unsure or doesn't know where to start, here are a few ideas that you can incorporate on your morning routine:
- Think of something you’re looking forward to that day (having coffee with a friend, spending time with your kids, doing a presentation at work).
- Let go of unrealistic expectations and be grateful for what you already have.
- Look in the mirror and remind yourself of a couple of your physical attributes that you’re happy about.
- Say no. If you find yourself overwhelmed and stressed, try saying no for a change.
To make it simple to begin with, write down what is that you already do, and then start adding what you'd like to try. This way it's easy to adjust and adapt as you go. What’s important is that you do enough experimentation to find out what works for you. Start slow, one step at a time can be it can as simple as checking in with your heart for a minute. It takes time to incorporate it into your life, there's no need to rush. Also, don't expect to get results straight away (although I believe you will).
My morning routine has transformed my life, I feel more confident, empowered, and mentally refreshed. I hope that you get inspired to try it out, I'll be here waiting to listen to how it went for you. I'd love to hear about your own experience, so let me know in the comments section.
Love & Light