How are your goals coming along? I'm sure you've started the year with a long list of things that you wanted to do or achieve. Now, a few months in, you might be feeling a bit overwhelmed and wondering why is it that I can't make a few changes in my life?
Don't worry we all go through it, we're creatures of habit. No matter how beneficial changes in routine are for us we avoid them because we tend to do the things that make us feel good, secure, and comfortable. It's a natural process, incorporating any type of change can go against the natural pathways that become automatic to us. That is why our bodies tend to act against us. We tend to fall back on our default or automatic behaviors when we try to put in place changes after a period of inactivity.
The good news is that if you're ready and really would like to change your life for the better you can! You'll need to overcome your inertia (tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged). Here are some ideas and suggestions to learn how.
1. List the pros and cons
Let's work first with your mindset by making a list of pros and cons about the change. What is it that you'd like to change? Maybe finding a new job, or start exercising? Start by writing your goals and then work on each by listing the benefits and what's holding you back. Make sure to go deep, not simple like "I want to get fit". Maybe you're not feeling confident with your body image or you're concern with your health, detail as much as you can. It's great incorporating also the feelings behind each issue as they might be a trigger for you. You need to train your mind on how much good impact the change will cause you.
2. Adopt a learning and growth mindset
Instead of focusing on "I can't do this" let's put your energy towards more positive thinking. You need to believe and understand that you're in control of the results you want, that is the growth mindset. To help you with that remember that we're always changing, evolving, and learning and that it's OK to make mistakes, but we can't let them stop us. You can do this!
3. Learn from others
If you're struggling to put things into practice, one of the best ways is to look at other's journeys. Listen to people talking about their success, you'll see that failure and struggle are part of everyone's journeys. It won't be different for you, it's the commitment and persistence that'll make you succeed. The more you expose yourself to reading, listening, and learning the more confident you'll be, increasing your chances to succeed.
4. Make your goal a priority
Ok, so now that you have the mindset it's time to take action by setting your goal as a priority. Stop putting your goals off until 'someday, create a timeline and start with baby steps. Let's say you want to start exercising more, so set the first day to find what you'd like to do, the second day you search for a place, the third day give them a call, the fourth day you go check out the place, fifth day you do a trial class... You get the idea, right?! Just make sure you keep going.
5. Keep track of your success
It's good to remind yourself of how far you've come. A great way to do that is by keeping track of your journey and success. You can use a journal, or write it down on your phone. You'll be able to see clearly your steps and how is your learning process, so next time you need to make a change you'll be more prepared to increase your odds. It is also an awesome way to regain perspective and see that you have what it takes to achieve your goals.
Yes, we're wired to resist the change, but that doesn't mean we can't do it. If you want and are really willing to work on it, you can change your life for the better. Don't let procrastination hold you back from achieving your goals. If you want to make your goal happen, start to take action about it.
Let's do this!
I hope you have enjoyed it and that you learned a few new things. Leave me a comment, I'd love to hear your opinion.